I often talk about things we can do, in everyday life, to strengthen our inner balance.
I often point to external things, such as exercising regularly, eating healthy food, getting enough sleep and spending time with the people you love.
But there are also things we can do with the help of reflection, to makes us feel better.
Things that can help us see a new perspective and change the way we think, making us more balanced and satisfied with our lives.
One powerful tool is to remind ourselves that we’re never alone. That whatever you’re feeling, is a shared a human experience.
So often, we believe that we are the only ones who experience certain difficulties. That we’re the only ones with these kind of crazy thoughts. Or the only ones that feel this bad. No one else can feel as bad as we do. And that’s a lonely and scary place to be.
I’m not saying we should deny or extenuate our difficulties or feelings in our lives – I’m just saying that we can feel better, if we remember that we all share these experiences.
If we remember that we are not alone, then we can relax just a little and feel more balance.
I personally went through a depression, a little more than a year ago, and the realization that I was not alone was so liberating that I actually started to cry.
Not from understanding that other people were just as miserable as I was at the time, but because it made me feel hope.
If I wasn’t alone, maybe – and just maybe – there were others who could understand. And if there were others who could understand, maybe I could actually ask for help. And if there were others that had become well again, then maybe I could too.
And I did. Today I’m good and back on track, and that’s why I want to share this with you.
Because maybe, you really need to hear that you’re not alone. You’re not!
Remember that it’s not about diminishing the feelings or experiences of others, but remembering that it’s all part of being human.
We all feel joy, sadness, shame, anger, fear, anxiety, pride, attraction and so on. We all experience both positive and negative things in life.
If we can remember that it is a natural part of life and that we are not alone (there are in fact probably thousands of people that feel like you do, whatever you’re feeling, right now) then everything suddenly feels just a little bit better.